anniversary gifts


In 1922 Emily Post wrote her first etiquette book in which she suggested traditional anniversary gifts for the first, fifth, tenth, fifteenth, twentieth, twenty-fifth and fiftieth wedding anniversaries. In 1957 Ms. Post expanded the list to include more anniversary years. The gift list has not changed very much during the past 50 years. It suggests recommended gifts for the first 15 years and for every five years after that.


My husband, Wesley, and I are celebrating our seventh wedding anniversary today. In honor of our anniversary, I thought I would post the list of traditional wedding anniversary gifts.

1 Paper

2 Cotton

3 Leather

4 Linen

5 Wood

6 Iron

7 Wool

8 Bronze

9 Pottery

10 Tin

11 Steel 

12 Silk

13 Lace

14 Ivory

15 Crystal

20 China

25 Silver

30 Pearls

35 Coral

40 Rubies

45 Sapphires

50 Gold

55 Emerald

60 Diamonds

sitting like a lady

More often than not, my etiquette blog posts are spurred by real life situations. This time is no different. It is a scene that you, no doubt, have also witnessed. A woman sits, not knowing that she is probably revealing a bit more than she intends to. Sitting seems basic but it is astonishing how few women grasp the concept of sitting like a lady.

WikiHow addresses the issue:

How To Sit Like A Lady

Whether you are entering a car, or sitting on a chair, there are ways that a proper lady, wearing either a dress or a skirt should do both.


  • Smooth the skirt under you, and do not sit with your legs apart. Remember you are wearing a skirt and not jeans.
  • Sit straight down on a chair, and cross your legs at the ankles or just place the legs together with the heels slightly to the rear. Move them slightly to the left of you.
  • Keep your back straight up, try not to lean against the back of the chair. If you do feel like leaning back, do not slouch on the chair, but sit erect.
  • Place your left hand just above your knee. Place your right hand on top of your left hand.

I would add that, depending on the length of your skirt, it may also be proper to sit with crossed knees. If you are wearing a skirt that is knee length or longer,  you can do so safely. If you are wearing anything shorter than knee length, crossing your legs at the knee may mean you are revealing a bit more than you intend to. Instead, cross your legs at the ankle.

Regardless of whether you are crossing your legs at the knee or the ankle, keep proper posture. It will distinguish you as a lady.